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Breaking The Intimacy Code

Uncategorized Nov 20, 2019

Intimacy Intelligence — the number one intelligence of the future?

In a video about the worldwide spreading loneliness epidemic I stumble upon this sentence:

“Loneliness is caused by inadequate intimate relations”. To that one might add: -and the lack of them.

Inadequate intimate relations refers to relationship types that actually create more distance than connection. Unhealthy intimacy. Lacking intimacy in relationships is fatal — leading to severe loneliness, that has now been documented to cause early death.

But what is intimacy really? Is it just a sexual thing? Of course not. Intimacy is about trust and connection. It is about creating meaningful human relationships, that hold the miracle of feeling seen, heard and contained — as you are without judgement. Be it professionally or personally. Be it in a minute or for an entire life.

“People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can...

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Intimacy Intelligence: Why mastering your intimacy skills will become crucial in the high tech future

Uncategorized Nov 07, 2019

As we become digital communication experts, our interpersonal and social skills are simultaneously being eroded. The intention of technology and AI is no doubt to enhance the human experience. But if the price of our digital connectivity is actually IRL disconnection and growing loneliness — which research indicates leads to a higher risk of early death — are we then not creating a digital culture that is actually destroying us?

The question is not whether or not to embrace technology. That would be like asking whether the sun will rise tomorrow or not. But the critical question to continuously ask is:

How can we make technology work for us instead of against us?

Will we be needing AI to teach us how to be human again? What fundamental specs of being human does technological reality invite us to consciously cultivate with more tenacity than ever before?

We touch our phones more than we touch each other. We send e-mails to the person sitting next to us, social...

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What is Your Digital Love Language

 
At a sold-out session on Techfestival in Copenhagen 100% of the 90+ attendees stood up when I asked the question:

“Stand up, if you have ever ignored someone on text message”.

E V E R Y 

S I N G L E 

P E R S O N 

in the room had done that.

A little less had been ignored themselves.

These days, one of the certain issues that always come up in conversations with my clients, students or friends is about their challenges with digital communication in their relationships. Personal, professional, romantic, parental. Any darn relationship, you can think of.

Often the people severely suffering relationships issues related to digital communication are on the dating market or in new relationships. But I also am spoken to about professional frustrations of low response or transgressive bosses or colleagues texting in the middle of the night, expecting prompt responses. In my own experience, poor digital communication skills became a root of hurtfull...

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Why you should talk to your teen about sexuality and intimacy before porn does

 

How often do you speak to your teenagers about sexuality and intimacy? How do you guide dem to intimate relating in the age of technology?

I invite you to take the talk.

Here is why it is important!

 

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Are you ready for virtual intimacy?

 

At the 16000+ attendee Techfestival in Copenhagen last week, I had the honour of speaking to a sold out session about the [email protected] equation, asking the question:

Will Artificial Intelligence lead to Artificial [email protected]? How to make technology work for us instead of against us.

We made this short video as a teaser. This is one of the most crucial questions for humans - but nobody seems to take up the conversation!

Fortunately the Danish mediapertner of the Techfestival, Politiken , did want to talk - and clearly saw the pivotal issue that we must address now. You can read the article here (in Danish): https://lnkd.in/eGDZiYt

Ready to join the conversation? Let's talk! 

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Why you should take the intimacy conversation with your teen before porn does

 
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Why you should start eye gazing immediately

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We meet on a rainy day in Copenhagen to talk about an ambitious start-up. We have never met before IRL. I am a bit annoyed because the invitation was diffuse, the meeting place was difficult to find and he was late. Well, truth be told we were both late.

I sensed a passion, an inner truth, a connection to something very real. I listened.

Hi.

Why did you invite me? I am busy.

Where to start.

Confusion.

Momentary disconnectedness.

“I’ve had an awakening. I figured it all out. And I want to help the world do the same”.

Okay…

Big words. Actually quite a courageous statement. I sensed a passion, an inner truth, a connection to something very real. I listened.

The guy is creating an organization that will use all the advanced technologies available in the present day, to help people all over the globe awaken and become aware. To live joyful, fulfilled, connected lives. To relieve the world from suffering. He believes the...

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How to reduce stress by making love to the water

 

Stress is an aroused state of the body, that causes harm both emotionally and physiologically.

By awakening your senses, you become more mindful and reduce stress in your everyday life. You create, one mindful step at the time, a more happy life.

In this video I teach how to awaken your senses in the most simple way and invite you to do some fun, life quality enhancing stuff :) 

 

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How to change how you feel in 5 seconds

Uncategorized Nov 30, 2018
 

Many of us think of addiction as substance addiction alone - like alcoholism or drug addiction. But there is also the addictive nature, that is addicted to processes of thought and emotions like anger, romance, food control, self harm.

Addiction has its roots in childhood shame, trauma, and abuse and creates a need to numb the unpleasantness of the emotions, that result from that. These emotions are good to treat with therapy and group work.

But you can also change the way you feel in an immediate moment of agitation or stress so that you stop the agitated negative spiral, that a stressful or anxious moment can generate. 

In this videoblog, I explain why you can and how to change how you feel in 5 seconds. 

 

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What do women really want...

What do we humans really want from a partner? According to Anthony Robbins, the super coach, women want a man who signals, and pardon the harsh language: “I will fuck you and take care of you for the rest of your life.”

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Photo: François Dolmetsch

Since “Mom” and “Milf” (short for “Mothers I’d like to fuck”) are the world’s top three search keywords on porn sites – something seems to suggest that men share the same wish. They, too, want women signaling that they want to fuck and take care of.

From the point of view of a heterosexual woman, this makes perfect sense. It can be a little tiring to meet a man who obviously has nothing else on his mind than sticking something of his into something of mine. It comes across as most unintelligent, pushy, and parochial when his one signal is “I want to fuck you.” My only desire in that situation is to get the hell out of there as quickly as possible.

A man,...

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