What do we humans really want from a partner? According to Anthony Robbins, the super coach, women want a man who signals, and pardon the harsh language: “I will fuck you and take care of you for the rest of your life.”

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Since “Mom” and “Milf” (short for “Mothers I’d like to fuck”) are the world’s top three search keywords on porn sites – something seems to suggest that men share the same wish. They, too, want women signaling that they want to fuck and take care of.

From the point of view of a heterosexual woman, this makes perfect sense. It can be a little tiring to meet a man who obviously has nothing else on his mind than sticking something of his into something of mine. It comes across as most unintelligent, pushy, and parochial when his one signal is “I want to fuck you.” My only desire in that situation is to get the hell out of there as quickly as possible.

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One evening an old Cherokee chief told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.” “The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. ”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked, “Grandfather, which wolf wins? ”The old Cherokee chief simply replied, “The one you feed.”